Hey ella! So, as someone with an equally ‘messy’ personal life, I was wondering about those affirmations that you tell yourself. How do you stay positive?

For the most part, the affirmations are just me thinking about my future goals in life. I try my best to recognize that my position is temporary, and that it won’t last forever, horrible as it is. 

What works best for me is repeating this small little saying that I made up. 

“Look the devil in the eye and shake his hand.”

I know it may seem silly, but I try to find something positive out of every negative experience. It gives me the courage to keep hoping for a happy outcome. 

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Anon 1: Hmmm. I’m a mix. I’m Lithuania in the sense that I’m a soft-spoken pushover. I don’t like relying on others, but ironically have trouble saying no to people. I’ll go out of my way to help them, often at my own expense. I don’t like to disappoint. 

I’ve grown pretty patient over the last two years, but I used to have a temperament comparable to England or Romano. They still come out sometimes if someone pisses me off enough. That’s when the heads start turning, considering how small I am. I can have a pretty bad potty mouth if I don’t watch it.

I’m also a bit of a Germany in the sense that I’m anal with my schedule. I keep an agenda detailing when I work-out, write, eat, etc. I tend to overshoot with what I want to accomplish in a day. 

Anon 2: You’re very welcome, and oh! If you ever feel like it, do share with us when you do publish your fics!

Anon 3: I KID YOU NOT, I was fudging around with my school’s research data base one time and decided to search up anime. I found an article on tsundere’s and they also used Germany as an example 

😂 

@super-realistic-fiction Wow! Thank you so much! I’m so glad that you get enjoyment from it!

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Anon 1: Agreed, on that first point! I think with Hetalia it strikes a good balance of finding moments of triviality and silliness within a wider historical backdrop of loneliness, pain, and melancholy of the past. Is that so? Why not find enjoyment in the fact that reality isn’t a perfect cookie-cutter version of what we desire? The imperfect is realistic, and that’s what I personally love about Hetalia so much. Unfortunately…

…the anime is completely unrepresentative of the series in that it only depicts the stock qualities of the characters and aims primarily for a happy angle, rather than exploring some of the emotional nuances and traumas that have consistently popped up in the manga. 

World Stars especially has fleshed out the mental healths of several nations. Don’t get me wrong either. I know how limited the anime medium is in exploring these angles. It’s just sad that this is what Hetalia is known for. 

Ironically, my biggest pet peeve are the canon police of fandoms. I think everyone should have free reign to take artistic liberties, so long as they don’t declare their interpretations to be canon. 

[You didn’t ask this off anon, so I couldn’t answer privately]. 

Anon 2: Yes, of course ^^. I’m working on France’s right now, actually!

Anon 3: Oh man. That’s something I’ve never really thought about to be honest. 

I love all of the characters and don’t dislike any of them

I don’t really have any favorites. They’re all flawed, and they all have their good qualities. There are very few series where I feel this way, but damn, Hima’s characterization man. It’s too good. 

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Anon 1: Yes, I’m done and thank you! Although, I still have a ton of paperwork and a rigorous interview process to go through for an upcoming student placement 😩

I also just moved in with my Dad, who’s older and needs help taking care of himself. I need to clean, repaint, and repave the walls, as well as do other errands for him now that he has someone who can drive for him at all hours of the day. My lord the house was dirty, and my OCD ass couldn’t take it. I cleaned non-stop for the past three days lmao. 

Once I get a routine down, I’ll get back to both reading and writing fics. We’ll see, I really would love to again. That said, I’m always open to giving shout-outs or fic recs 🙂

Anon 2: Thank you! I’m working on a few at the moment, so you can expect more soon 😀

@infotalia-kun: You seem pretty productive to me if you’re reading every day 😉 It’s more like I would feel narcissistic for posting the compliments. Of course, I would always say thank you to those who sent asks off anon. On the other hand, the anon asks used to take a lot of stubbornness on my part in fighting back against those old thought distortions. ❤

Anon 3: Thank you again! I sound like a broken robot. I’m an incredibly stubborn person with set-goals each day, week, month, and year. 

Obviously, this is quite extreme, but I run between 10-12k every day. It helps keep me calm and focused on what I want to accomplish. I religiously use an agenda, eat healthy, routinely practice my writing/ grammar, and repeat positive affirmations in my head. On top of that, I have wonderful followers whose support continues to prop me up in spite of how messy my personal life can be. 

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Anon 1: No worries, it doesn’t make me feel uncomfortable! I just come from a home where I’m called narcissistic for focusing on my studies. It’s a double-bind where if I tell my mother my grades, her boyfriend heckles me for being self-important, but if I don’t tell my mother my grades (not that she ever asked me on her own anyway), all of a sudden I lack empathy and am forced to tell them since I’m living under their roof.

Short story short, I have a lot of trouble receiving/posting compliments because I’m so used to being criticized for my accomplishments. I feel guilty and egocentric, even though I know that’s not the case. It’s taken me a few years, but I’m beginning to reverse a lot of these distorted thoughts now that I realize it’s not me that’s the problem. It’s all right, though. I really appreciate all the support I receive and cherish it unequivocally ❤

Anon 2: Yes, I know. I didn’t say that Rome never visited Romano. What I did say was that the care Romano received from Rome was inconsistent and therefore absent for the most part.

Also, I did mention that Rome loves Romano. Even as recent as World Stars, we’ve seen Rome visit Romano in his dreams, telling him to get along with Veneziano better. He cares about both of them dearly. 

Hmmm. That’s an interesting last thought you have there! I can definitely imagine that given that Rome’s trips from heaven add further to this inconsistency of care and availability. 

Anon 3: I think we’re coming up to a year some time in May!

Anon 1: Yes and no. It’s just like any other social media site. You share what you feel comfortable sharing so long as it doesn’t compromise your security or give away too much information that can be used against you. 

Personally, (and some of you already know this if you read my stories) I’ve had a real-life stalker before. Anyone can share a picture, but most stalkers are people that you know in real life. That’s what’s terrifying. I’m sorry to hear that about your brother, though. To guard against something like that from happening, I usually have a piece of tape over my laptop’s camera and pay for a solid hacker protection service.

Anon 2: Feel free to hug me! I apologize in advance if my hair gets in the way.